1:1 Sexual
Empowerment
Mentorship
Pleasure Is Our Birthright
What is the 1:1 Sexual Empowerment Mentorship?
This mentorship offers in-depth, respectful support for people with wombs who have experienced sexual trauma and want to reclaim their sense of pleasure and aliveness.
You deserve to be deeply supported and held as you explore some of your most challenging experiences and heartfelt desires.
Over a series of online sessions, you’ll empower your body to digest trauma and create space for your inborn pleasure so you feel free to make love and embrace the fullness of life!
Who is the mentorship for?
This is for people with wombs who want to put sexual trauma in the past so your life stops being ruled by tension, fear, anger, and shut down. It’s for women who know sexual liberation is possible and want some help experiencing it!
Some people have a narrow definition of sexual trauma so I’d like to open it up… Sexual trauma includes any sexual experience you have had which overwhelmed your nervous system. It doesn’t matter if it was consensual or not. If you felt shocked or like something wasn’t right, you can trust your intuition, and you do deserve support.
When we experience sexual trauma, many of us shut down our sexual energy because it doesn’t feel safe to experience sexual sensations in the body… there is fear of re-experiencing trauma by attracting unwanted attention, deep shame around what we may have experienced, and sometimes unbearable rage. The suppression of sexual energy and the stress of holding trauma in the womb can create dis-ease in the body.
On top of that, in tantra, sexual energy is understood as life force energy. Tantra teaches us how to cultivate our sense of aliveness by expanding our sexual energy so we can fully enjoy the pleasure of being alive (which very much includes making love)! So, when our sexual energy is suppressed, it can be difficult to enjoy all aspects of life.
Womb Tantra is specifically designed to cultivate a respectful relationship with the womb. You’ll learn how to turn your body on by listening to the desires of your womb.
If you’re struggling with any of the following and you have a deep knowing that the root cause is sexual trauma, you may find some 1:1 support with me or someone else to be helpful.
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period pain
migraines
fibromialgia
vaginismus and vulvodynia (pain during penetrative sex)
difficulty relaxing the muscles devoted to physiological birth
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chronic anxiety
difficulty relaxing into intimacy and giving birth
hormonal imbalances like PCOS due to the system being flooded with stress in the form of cortisol
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PMS/PMT/PMDD
chronic thrush and urine infections
constant arguments with loved ones
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emotional stagnancy like depression and disinterest in pleasurable activities from making love to your old favourite hobbies
seemingly uncontrollable behaviours like eating disorders and addictions
cells in the womb taking on a life of their own such as endometriosis and fibroids
difficulty climaxing or anorgasmia
“My top goals when starting the program were healing traumas, healing pmdd, loving myself. I never felt judged and I always felt like I was talking with a friend. The biggest tangible change I have noticed since beginning the program has been being able to control my random bouts of rage due to my pmdd better and a major reduction in cramps. I would describe Katie as supportive, loving, and kind. So down to earth and honest in the most refreshing way.”
— Jade Carlucci Can I heal sexual trauma?
This was my big question when I first began my healing journey. Over time, I realised that the only way I was going to come into a joyful relationship with my womb was to let go of what being “healed” looks like.
Many women want to be able to enjoy penetrative sex with minimal foreplay because this is what we see in most movies and porn. We want to be loved so we try to override what our bodies are telling us.
The truth is that typically, this is not how female pleasure anatomy works. For most women, it’s only possible to get off on this kind of sex by dissociating from the sensations in the body, fantasising, using a vibrator, or intoxicating ourselves.
Not only does this lead to mediocre orgasms at best, but overriding the body like this is actually traumatising and can lead to all of the dis-ease mentioned above… even if you’re in a loving and consensual relationship. It’s not you or your partner’s fault. It’s how our society has taught us to have sex. When a person with a womb has also experienced other more extreme sexual trauma, all of the dis-ease mentioned above is exacerbated.
In order to heal sexual trauma, step one is to reorient your definition of making love. In Womb Tantra, making love is cultivating sexual energy in order to expand bliss. This is completely possible for someone who has experienced sexual trauma as long as we feel respected, loved, and resourced.
As we practice cultivating sexual energy, two things happen:
We feel more sexual sensations in the body and our nervous systems adjust to support this experience of pleasure to be present.
The tension and emotions which are blocking our experience of pleasure release from the body.
Then, the love-making goes to another dimension… quite literally. Tantric sex can lead you to pure joy… the knowing that you are the divine in a beautiful human body.
You can absolutely do this by yourself or with a loving partner. But, if you feel that well-informed and experienced guidance may help you to go to the depths and the heights of your pleasure, I would be honoured to be of assistance.
“I felt held and listened to. Her warmth and loving presence made me feel extremely grounded and comfortable. I felt free to express myself, be open and vulnerable.”
— Tash Breeze How do we work together?
I’ll guide you to lead the way with the challenging experiences and heartfelt desires which feel most important to you. If it all feels so big that you don’t know where to start, don’t worry. I will listen to your story and suggest an appropriate starting point.
The three key areas are nervous system regulation, digesting trauma, and expanding your capacity for pleasure. We’ll move at a pace which feels good to you.
When helpful, I’ll share the tools of Womb Tantra with you (which you can read more about on the Living Temple Course page here). However, your personal empowerment is my top priority. I’ll encourage you to discover the tools which work for your womb. Ultimately, my goal is that you eventually won’t need me because you’ll be able to listen to the guidance of your womb.
We’ll work together one lunar month at a time which includes:
x3 90-minute online sessions where you’ll discuss and embody a specific desire
At-home practices to help you integrate what you embodied in the sessions
Whatsapp check-ins between session so you can ask questions and share how it’s going
One lunar cycle is an investment of £450. I offer a minimum of three sessions because I find that this is necessary to deeply rewire your nervous system for lasting transformation.
You may find that one lunar cycle is enough to digest a specific trauma or embody a particular desire. Or, you may want to keep going. Because we live in a sexually mislead society, I’ve personally found that there’s always more to heal and alchemise into even greater empowerment, joy, and pleasure. Each person is on a unique journey so I encourage you to trust what feels most supportive for you.